Nurturing is our theme of the month for May at Healthoholics. Plus, Mother’s Day is just around the corner, and many of us are thinking of the ways we can nurture the moms in our life. And, it has me considering how we nurture those we care for.
Several years ago, when I learned about love languages, it totally changed my perspective in several relationships.
My personal love language is “Acts of Service”. This means, for me, actions speak louder than words. I feel most loved when people around me do things for me that are useful or thoughtful. It’s also a very comfortable way for me to show love.
However – and here comes the a-ha moment – there are 5 different love languages. Basically, the way that I receive love isn’t the way everyone around me receives love. In turn, we are wise to give and show love in the way that the person receiving will most appreciate it.
This Mother’s Day why not spend a little extra time considering the love language the moms in your life adore the most? Below, I (very briefly) explain each love language, and give a few “gift” ideas for each one.
Words of Affirmation
People who receive love through words of affirmation want to be showered in kind words!
- Give compliments
- Pen a heart-felt card
- Brag about their awesomeness during the family brunch
Hearing or reading what she means to you, or how she’s so special, is sure to make the day one to remember.
People who receive love through quality time want your undivided attention! You can basically do any activity that allows your focused attention to be on this individual. If they prefer quality time, there’s lots of options for “gifts”!
If budget is a concern:
- take the mom in your life for a quaint brunch
- sit on your back deck with a tea
- take her for a picnic
- go for a simple stroll around a local park
Or, if you want to be a little more extravagant:
- get a VOC-free manicure together (make sure you’re focussed on her!)
- sign-up to take a class with her
Spending time with the ones we love is a great way to show we care, and it’s especially true for the moms in our lives who receive love through quality time.
This love language is a little more straight-forward. For some people, actual physical gifts make them feel the most loved. If the moms in your life like a receiving gifts, you could:
- opt for something simple like cut flowers or a potted plant
- go all out for a new piece of jewellery
Acts of Service
For people like me, who receive love best from acts of service – actions speak louder than words. Does the mom in your life have an outstanding project? Maybe she wants to:
- clean our her garage
- add new mulch to her front gardens
Completing little projects with, or for, this type of person is the best way to show them you care!
For people whose love language is physical touch, there is nothing that speaks to them more than affectionate touch. This could be:
- a big hug
- a shoulder or foot rub
- holding hands while going for a walk
These little acts will ensure the moms in your life who appreciate physical touch know that they’re loved.
I hope this helps you treat the moms in your life to their best Mother’s Day yet!